For the last year and a half, my marriage has been going through a massive metamorphosis. It’s been everything you’d expect. Some observations in no particular order. One. We are in a major overhaul of how we are with gender, sexuality, partnership. Heteronormativity is thankfully being deconstructed. I don’t know any couples (small case study to be sure) who have been in long-term hetero marriages, especially the kind that started young and probably in the church, that are happy (vague descriptor I know). There is something of this framework, all the overt and the subtle rules, what you’ve been told you’re entitled to expect from each other, the foundation that began the whole thing, that very often seems to squeeze the life out of the love that fueled the endeavor in the beginning.
on long-term hetero marriages
on long-term hetero marriages
on long-term hetero marriages
For the last year and a half, my marriage has been going through a massive metamorphosis. It’s been everything you’d expect. Some observations in no particular order. One. We are in a major overhaul of how we are with gender, sexuality, partnership. Heteronormativity is thankfully being deconstructed. I don’t know any couples (small case study to be sure) who have been in long-term hetero marriages, especially the kind that started young and probably in the church, that are happy (vague descriptor I know). There is something of this framework, all the overt and the subtle rules, what you’ve been told you’re entitled to expect from each other, the foundation that began the whole thing, that very often seems to squeeze the life out of the love that fueled the endeavor in the beginning.